” Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers”
When you are a kid the life seems to be so easy, you feel like you can fly, like you have the whole world under your feet. You are full of energy, you have the time, you have the courage and you have love for life. You are happy and free. The time passes, you experience more and more difficult moments and suddenly you are not the same free person anymore. You have changed. Life does not seems to be so beautiful. You are not smiling like you used to do. You start wearing a mask and practice your fake smile on daily basis. You start punishing yourself for all the mistakes you have done. You realize that you are not slim enough, not rich enough, you do the job you are ashamed of. You do not like the way you are and who you became. You do not love yourself.
If you feel that way it is time to wake up. I have been there. I was overweight kid, not accepting my body, overeating to kill negative emotions . My parents had no money to buy me new toys, I never went for school holiday. I wasn’t not happy with myself and I decided to change. It was the time to give myself some love.
Here are the 10 tips how to start loving yourself:
1. Realize that you do not love yourself
The first step to start loving yourself and have a wonderful life is to realize that you do not give yourself enough love that you should do. You are too tough, too judgmental. Look at the mirror. The person you see is the one you should love the most. You are beautiful and worth. You will not go too far without self love.
Forgive yourself all the mistakes you have done in the past. Forgive all people who have made you feel bad. Forgive your father who left you without a word. Forgive your Boss who treats you like a shit and make your life hell at work. Forgive yourself these extra pounds on your hips. Let it go.
3. Be kind to yourself
Accept who you are and treat yourself nice. Be happy inside and you will attract more goodness into your life. I know it is not easy to smile when you feel like your life is going down. I have been there, trust me. Wake up, have a shower, have a nice breakfast. Go for a walk. Start each day with passion. Talk to yourself nice, you know why? Because you are the most important person in your life !
4. Appreciate what you have
Look around and see how many great things surround you. You are healthy, you have kids, you have roof under your head, your partner is with you when you wake up. You are alive. You have strength to go to work. There are millions of people in the world who have less than you and they are more happy. Know real value of what you have. Practice appreciation every day.
5. Let go of Perfection
I completely agree with Marese Hickey who said: ” I do not have to be perfect. Good enough will do”.
Why are you doing this to yourself? Why are you searching for something unreal? Perfection does not exist. You do not have to be perfect to lead wonderful life. You do not have to be size 6 to finally be happy. Instead of trying to be perfect focus on becoming excellent in your field. Remember nobody is perfect!
You can not truly love yourself without taking care of your body. Stop excessive drinking. Stop eating junk food . Stop watching Tv and instead go for walk or dance. Do something to make yourself feel good. Feed your body with healthy food, full of vitamins. You will feel great and energized. You will feel confident. Your life will change and you will love and accept yourself more.
7. Practice Now
Experience life. Be Present and enjoy every moment. When you eat-eat. When you walk- walk. Whatever you do, feel it. Do not live present while you are still holding your past or constantly thinking about the future.
This remains me myself during my travels in the past. I was seating on the plane going to discover wonderful places in the world and guess where my thoughts were at this time? Planning my next trip! What is the point to travel if you can not really enjoy it?
Learn to be HERE. Learn to live NOW.
8. Find your purpose
Why are you here? Have you found your purpose in life ? I believe that everyone have it. My purpose of life is to show others that the life can be beautiful no matter where you come from and no matter who you are. My purpose in life is to teach women that there is always time for change and live the life they love. My purpose is to squeeze my life to the last drop and never regret anything.
What is your passion? What do you like to do the most? What makes you happy?
If you haven’t found it yet, go and search. Sooner or later you will find out why are you on this Earth.
9. Be yourself
Do you know this sentence: “Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken”? Why would you pretend to be someone else? Why would you try to live someone else’s life? Be authentic. Be who you are. Learn to say no to the things you do not like. Stop wearing a mask. Listen to your inner child and follow your dreams.
10. Enjoy the journey
Life can be beautiful even if now you might not feel like it is true .Enjoy every single moment of it, find happiness in small things and never allow someone to tell you are not worth it or good enough. Instead wake up and live!